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Celebrating your child’s birthday after divorce

On Behalf of | Aug 31, 2022 | Child Custody

Your child’s birthday is something they look forward to every year. In the past, you celebrated with a big party. The whole extended family and some friends gather to shower them with presents and lots of love. However, things are different this year because of your divorce. Now you’re trying to figure out how can you make the day special for your child under the circumstances.

Depending on the type of relationship that you have with your ex, there are a few ways to work things out. You just have to get creative if the two of you cannot be in the same room together without an argument breaking out.

Ways to celebrate your child’s birthday

Some of the options for celebrating your child’s birthday include:

  • Stick with tradition and hope for the best. Nothing says that you can’t go ahead with the party as planned. If you, your spouse, your family and friends can remain civil for a couple of hours, the party will be a success.
  • Host separate parties. This may be the year for each parent to host their own birthday party for their child. Gather your side of the family for a party, and let your ex do the same at their place. (Your child will probably be excited about having two parties.)
  • Split up the day. You could start a new tradition. Your ex can take your child out for breakfast and you could take your child to dinner. As long as your child doesn’t mind having to split the day between households, this can be a great alternative to a big party.

The most important thing to remember is that this day is not about you and your ex. The last thing that should happen on a child’s birthday is a loud fight between their parents. If the two of you can’t agree on how to celebrate (or anything else), it may be time to review your custody agreement.